How to make learning fun for children with special needs

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All children learn at different paces, and it is not uncommon to find that special needs children can take a bit longer to learn basic concepts. This is because of the way and rate at which they process information. Notwithstanding this, we want to ensure that just like every other child, children with special needs are able to have fun despite their challenges. For kids, learning is better when it is fun, but developmental challenges can sometimes pose a barrier to this. To overcome this challenge, we must be able to do things a bit differently. Although, it might result in more effort but it is worth every bit of that effort. If your objective is teaching, then your mission is not accomplished until learning has occurred.

These are 5 useful and practical tips to make learning fun for children with special needs:

  1. Use the things they love or are obsessed with to teach them new concepts. This can help make the concept easier to grasp. If a child is obsessed with cars, you use the cars to teach imagination, feelings and emotions for a start and then transfer the concept to people. You can even use it to teach simple maths concepts (additions, subtractions, multiplications and division).
  2. Use lots of visuals and practical displays. This makes it easier to relate to what is being taught as imagination sometimes can be a challenge.
  3. Divide what needs to be learnt into smaller bits so that it is not overwhelming. Remember that for a child with special needs, it doesn’t matter if the learning is at snail speed as long as it doesn’t stop.
  4. Embrace the use of technology. The preferred way of teaching is not necessarily the best way of teaching. A child who hates music but loves computers can learn music using computer software.
  5. Lastly empathy! How does empathy help you may ask? Children can sense when teaching them feels like a burden to you. So put yourself in the child’s shoes and just have fun together- no judgement.

 

Before you offer that unsolicited parental advice…

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This is a society where we believe “it takes a community to raise a child”. Therefore, we are automatically entitled to giving parenting advice to others- bad enough before they ask for it, and worse still in the face of a child that is not well behaved.
Well, just in case you did not realise, these are the assumptions you may have consciously or unconsciously made about the recipient of your advice:
1. That they need it
2. That they don’t already know about it
3. That they have not tried it before
4. That they are not doing a great job at parenting

A badly behaved child is not always a result of bad parenting. Some children genuinely struggle with appropriate behaviour.

That child who just can’t sit in one place or follow instructions might have ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder).
That other child who keeps making that “weird noise” might have Tourettes syndrome.
Oh! and that child who had a meltdown at the hairdresser’s might have SPD (Sensory Processing Disorder).
That child who can’t wait their turn and keeps crying might have AUTISM.
And that child that seems very violent, temperamental and disruptive might have ODD (Oppositional Defiance Disorder).

So when you feel the urge to dole out that unsolicited parenting advice, or cast that judgemental look or murmur “na wa oh!”, how about trying EMPATHY. It is understanding what someone else is going through by putting yourself in their shoes. If you have not parented a special needs child, you don’t know what it takes to parent a special needs child.

What will I do if my child has a disability? Must read!

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God forbid!!! It is not my portion!!! Ok let’s stop there. It is just a question (one worth giving a thought). A disability is not a curse and those who have a disability or a child /children with one form of disability or the other will tell you they didn’t wish or pray for it. No one prays for it but, it is one of those things in life that when you get served, you chin up and make the absolute best of the situation. Anyone can have a child with a disability and it has nothing to do with your level of spirituality.
1. If you are just starting out in life, make sure you can answer this question before you start trying for babies.
2. If you already have children, make sure you can answer this question because you are not excluded from the scope.
3. And if you are not planning on having or adopting any children, well then, hope you can share this with someone who might need it.
Nothing prepares you for parenting any child and most certainly, nothing prepares you for parenting a child with a disability but one thing is definite- lots of love, strength and patience will be required from you. Whichever side of the table you find yourself, focus on what matters- raising children with great self-esteem who will learn to love themselves no matter what. Children who will not be defined by their disabilities, but instead learn that the faith they have in themselves if strong enough will propel them to succeed in life. Focus on raising children who will learn to love and accept other children who have a disability.
Teach your children empathy. Show empathy.